Haven't get time to write any stuff here cuz recently I am making another website about my China Experience.
The Website is here; http://chinashock.weebly.com
One week before, I finally landed to island of Taiwan, the weather was pretty humid, that makes me sneezed a lot. But overall it's happy to see my family in the end.
So now I really got bored for some reason...Life is fine but always feel some part of me are empty. Why empty? It's funny I haven't engaged in a serious relationship for 2years. What's my problem? Bcuz I've been moving around? Or I just have problem with commitment? It's funny how I realize human beings always being in the mode called "Unsatisfied". We always want to pursue the happiness. But why we always trying to pursue something we probably won't be able to have in the end. And we spent all our life pursuing the "thing" that we can only have it after we died and we only realize that right before we died but we already dying. How regret the feeling we are possibly going to have. Unfortunately we can't interview those died ppl, otherwise we may have some clue about the way to enjoy our life.
Talk about the unsatisfied again. Like right now I am working my butt on the job for over 6months and I hate it! I want to quit my job so badly but I clearly sure once I quit I would like to get a job or engage in something again. And sometimes I am lonely being single, but I know I get commitment problem and I always expect BF things, and I have the fairytale in mind which is no cool. So yeah, I am still in the endless circle of life. Ugh! I hate it...
So its the end of April now. Time past so fast that it looks like its flying! Flying!
These days I got some visitors from Taiwan, so I was extremely busy as I was bring them around Beijing city. Hot Pot of Lamb, Peking Duck, Night Life, etc. Life is getting fun and prosper. And I have to work extra 2 months then I can leave. I "can" leave, I know I am too weak to say no to my boss. But what can I do?
Anyway, today I am actually not busy so I made my own special business card for photography career.
I told my boss I am going to quit my job days ago, because of this non-stop work only gets my nerves. I don't have enough rest and don't have the mood to work out. Things are out of control for some reason. However, for celebrated the apartment got renewed, me and my flatmates hold a warm-up party at our place and celebrated with bunch friends. We lighted some candles and I made my first time special Tequila cocktail! Can't believe because everyone seem to love it a lot. I made entire four huge bowls and its all gone even the whole new bottle of Vodka turned empty in the end. And we were talking and hanging around and I was actually quite busy as a host, had to taking care of everything. Most of us up till 3am in the morning which I think its very success in the end. : )
Oh, and my job. My boss told me he doesn't want me to go, he will try to sort things out.
But all I want is to have more breaks.
轉載自台客網 Jackie 的文章
曾幾何時，想到七年級大學生，不耐壓的 ”草莓族“ 似乎是唯一的代名詞。草莓族被冠以的特質 ：
1.無法承受壓力：包括經濟壓力、生活壓力、責任壓力、工作壓力，他們比普通人的承壓指數低五倍。所以，常常在面臨壓力的時候，以逃避責任為方式而躲避，因此，常換工作，常常換異性朋友、常缺錢。
2.喜歡花錢寵自己：個人主義緊張的草莓族，對於自己「辛辛苦苦」賺來的錢，一定要花在自己身上，才覺得對得起自己，而且花到光光為止，因為不僅要買最好的、最流行的，而且自己要非常喜歡才行。一般沒有特色的服飾，適無法動搖他們的心，無論多麼便宜都沒有用。
3.認為自己是獨一無二的：無論是服裝、造型、配件、髮色、搭配，都是由自己一手打理，絕對沒有雷同的造型出現，因為這樣才「個人」。
之前又看到有關七年級生等於草莓族的新聞報導，心中有些感觸。因為之前重感冒的原因，所以拖到現在才把想法寫出來。其實七年級生之所以被稱為草莓族是因為大部份的七年級生都太脆弱、太容易受到打擊，就像草莓一樣，輕輕一捏就爛了。我在學校讀書或在社會上工作，都會遇到很多不同年齡層的人，四五六七年級都有，也時常跟父母、師長以及朋友討論我對於“七年級生 = 草莓族”的看法，也覺得在替七年生貼上“草莓族”的標籤前，有些事是需要思考一下的。
如果你覺得七年級生無法接受壓力和挫折，那你覺得七年級生應該是怎樣子的呢？你覺得七年級生應該有四年級生的歷練，五年級生的圓融，六年生的自信？然而你確忽略了七年級生吸取新知識的神速、跳脫框框的思考模式及令人驚嘆的創意。
常常聽到老一輩的長輩們說：「我在你這年紀，早就.........」老一輩的長輩們很早就踏入社會工作賺錢養家，現在的七年級生不是還在校園讀書就是剛踏入社會，如果七年級生也像老一輩的長輩們一樣，很早就踏入社會，相信現在二十歲左右的我們面對壓力和挫折也會見怪不怪。但從另一個角度來看，七年級生如果只想工作，而沒有讀大學的打算是不是又會被貼上“沒前途”和 “不上進”的標籤？
草莓爛了......之後呢？你們覺得七年級生好像草莓一樣，輕輕一捏就爛了，但你有等一等觀察草莓後來的發展嗎？七年級生對壓力和批評也許反應很大，但我們能讓自己走出陰霾後，變得比以前更好，所以我覺得七年級生並不是全部都是草莓，而是海綿。我們一直吸收和用自己的一套方式處理種種的壓力和挫折，剛吸收時你會看到海綿的顏色變深了，但過一陣子，海綿看起來還是原來的海綿，也許你會問吸收的東西到哪裡了？有些蒸發了，有些還留在海綿裡，所以看起來跟以前沒兩樣的海綿，其實多了一些內涵和經驗，別因為你們沒看到就當做它不存。總而言之，我想說畢竟挫折容忍度高，勤奮的七年級生，比比皆是！所以請別用自己的標準衡量別人，更別期望每個人都跟自己一樣”也“請別以偏概全的認為七年級生 = 草莓族”。
So...it's March! Almost 6 months since the first day I stepped on Mainland China.
Guess it's time for me to write some comments about what I've know about China. What is my China experience? Right, more than what I expected.
One thing I had never expect before is the huge culture shock.
I had some hard time because of those terrible attitudes from some of local people. Like I mentioned earlier, there are always advantages and disadvantages to live in Beijing, I think Beijing is quiet an internationally city with lots of opportunities and a very unique combinations of western and oriental culture. And its a big city full of ancient Chinese culture which is impressive.
But somehow people here don't have nice personality and good working attitude. It's like you have to be mean to people to gain their "repect", otherwise people will just treat you like shit.
Somehow modern China society are too complicated with no boundary, some people are totally selfish and rude. They don't care about others, they just care about how to take more money from your pocket even in a bad way, thats very scary for me, sometimes I really don't know who will I be able to trust over here.
Lasttime when I had this complain, my British boss Robert told me about one thing; he said that, one good thing about stay in China is he learned the most in his life by the experience that he had in China.
"Once you can survive in China, you can pretty much survive in anywhere of this world except Africa." He said.
For some reason, life in China is not as easy as in the States for me, it actually force me to grow faster. It's bizzard but it's ture. After seeing those greedy, aggressive or self-irrgant people around (Including people from everywhere, Mainlander, Taiwanese, Westerner, etc.) I need to build and hold my own values and be aware of those values I disagree with may influence my own values.
Because of that, I think last year in US was too easy and comfortable. But I think this year in China could be a big challange for me and shape myself become more tuff and indepandent.
In many parts, China is almost another world. Like the culture in US is a "Welcome Culture." US culture is open to everyone from everywhere, in some points, that means US has NO original culture, people said it's "Immigrant Culture". Every outlander can step in easily without changing too much. But take Europe as an example, the culture is not that easy for the "outsider" to survive in a short time because Europe has so called "the European culture" which may defend those outsiders' own tradition and take years to absurb or get used to it.
What about China?
For me, China is an unusual country. It's completely different than those western countries, or those "westernize" countries. China is a growing place mix with different race, bizzard political system and unsteady economical situations. It's mixed but messy. In this land, people have to be greedy, because the government have no ability to protect every single person in this country. Imagine this the one and only Communist government have to taking care billions of citizen and millions of foreigner in the same time. Furthermore, the gap between wealthy and poor is dramaticaly huge. 10% people own 90% wealth and vise versa. It's not hard to imagine people have to fight for their life, struggling by how much they can save per month. Because, if you are poor, you are poor. There is no better welfare system to help you.
I've asked many of my "outlander" friends, except those crazy martial art fan, super Chinese culture fan or Asian fan. They confessed the life in China is not the best. They came here becuase of the business, either they got better offer than in their own country or they were major in Chinese language. At least that prove I am not insant to have the feeling in my mind.
However, there is still many parts of Beijing that I like. For example, 9 of 10 days are blue-sky sunny day; over centuries ancient palace just right in the town; Chinese love me as their long-lost Taiwanese lil sister, Many cheap, fake, easy-damaged DVD and free online movie watching website, no trouble to carry or drink whatever alcohol bottle on the street and one time metro ticket only cost 2RMB (which is 30cent usd, the bus only cost 6cent usd) etc....
Far as I know, this is Beijing, China, the place I am staying right now.
How to Enjoy Life
October 11th, 2007 by Peter Clemens
In The Magic of Starting Small, I made the point that it is your days that define your life. In this article, I want to challenge the common perception that it is only possible to enjoy your leisure time. In particular, this article is targeted at the professional stuck in the 9 to 5 grind who longs for the weekend and, in the process, has given up on trying to find pleasure in the ordinary experiences we have every day.
1. Appreciate Beauty. Each day we come across beauty in a number of shapes and forms. It’s a shame, then, that many people have become so accustomed to this beauty that it largely goes unappreciated. I suggest looking again at the people, plants, gadgets, and buildings (to name but a few examples) around you and taking a moment to appreciate what makes them so special.
2. Connect With Nature. Nature is an amazing healer for the stresses and strains of modern life. Eating lunch in the park, attending to a vegetable garden in your backyard, or watching the sunset are just a few simple ideas for how you can enjoy the outdoors on a daily basis.
3. Laugh. E. E. Cummings once said “the most wasted of all days is one without laughter.” How very true. Never be too busy to laugh, or too serious to smile. Instead, surround yourself with fun people and don’t get caught up in your own sense of importance.
4. Have Simple Pleasures. A good cup of coffee when I first wake. Time spent playing with my 8 month old son. Cooking a nice meal in the evening. These may not seem terribly exciting, but they are some of the simple pleasures I enjoy in life. If you slow down for just a moment and take the time to appreciate these ordinary events, life becomes instantly more enjoyable.
5. Connect With People. In so many ways, it is our relationships with people that give us the most happiness in life. Perhaps, then, the best way to enjoy your work more is not to get a raise or a promotion, but rather to build rewarding relationships with your co-workers.
6. Learn. There is a strong link between learning and happiness. Given this, there is no excuse not to be stimulating your brain and learning something new each day. My favorite way to find time for learning is to make the most of the commute to and from work. Audiobooks and podcasts are great for this purpose.
7. Rethink Your Mornings and Evenings. Are the mornings a mad rush for you to get out the door? Do you switch off the TV at night and go straight to bed? I have personally experienced the profound benefits of establishing a routine in the morning and evening. For example, in the morning you may choose to wake an hour earlier and spend the time working on yourself, whether it be reading, writing or exercising. In the evening, consider spending some time just before bed reviewing your day or in meditation.
8. Celebrate Your Successes. During a normal day we are sure to have some minor successes. Perhaps you have successfully dealt with a difficult customer, made a sale, or received a nice compliment for your work. These aren’t events worth throwing a party for, but why not take a moment to celebrate your success? Share the experience with someone else, reward yourself with a nice lunch, or just give yourself a mental pat on the back.
Peter writes about how to enjoy life at The Change Blog.
So after 4 nights nonstop life purpose discussion, you finally left. Thank you "Cave Man" for called me and told me if you have the good memories in China is all because the good time you had in Beijing. Seriously, in the beginning, your just some random person came to my life by my good friend sent you from Montreal, it ended up everything worked so well between us.
These days and nights, we were talking nonstop about family, relationship, life goal, etc. for at least 20hrs, especially the last night we missed the last metro, and walked to the bus stop but still missed the bus and was talking all the time at the bus stop. It seems like we dun want to end up our conversation cuz then we will probably not gonna see each other again after this goodbye. So we ended up at your place but nothing seriously happened. We stayed up talking till 530am in the morning and we slept. We kissed, you hugged me and touch me and my hair... and --> And we had breakfast and you walked me to the Metro station. "If you come to Montreal or Quebec, give me a call!!" And... So Long!
A bit weird, yes! Feels a bit weird, like we just worked so well together. Ahh..
Around 5pm, you called and told me thanks me for everything, and you were being so polite.
You should,
the last call from you.
And we are done.
So that's life,
At least we all had a good memories together.
*naf Do says: (4:10:57 PM)
你現在中文有大陸腔嗎
*naf Do says: (4:11:00 PM)
上次聽是沒有
Jennyfer.L says: (4:11:01 PM)
我說對啊∼去哪去哪
*naf Do says: (4:11:01 PM)
呵呵
Jennyfer.L says: (4:11:03 PM)
哈
Jennyfer.L says: (4:11:06 PM)
應該看人說吧
Jennyfer.L says: (4:11:21 PM)
如果跟這裡的人說就會說有腔
Jennyfer.L says: (4:11:28 PM)
跟台灣人說就台灣腔
Jennyfer.L says: (4:11:35 PM)
跟外人說就外國腔
Jennyfer.L says: (4:11:40 PM)
我也不知道....我很奇怪
Jennyfer.L says: (4:12:03 PM)
我跟大陸人說話 他們說我是台灣
Jennyfer.L says: (4:12:15 PM)
我跟我台灣朋友說話他們說我說北京腔
Jennyfer.L says: (4:12:26 PM)
我跟我英國佬板說話他說我是美國人
Jennyfer.L says: (4:12:36 PM)
我跟我在美國叔叔講話他說我有英國腔
Jennyfer.L says: (4:12:47 PM)
:|
Jennyfer.L says: (4:13:01 PM)
喔∼還有人說我是普通話說得很好的韓國人
*naf Do says: (4:14:07 PM)
你有因為這樣迷失自己嗎
Jennyfer.L says: (4:15:52 PM)
我覺得我是30%chinese..20%american...15%european 15%Latino 10%japanese 10%不詳
Jennyfer.L says: (4:16:17 PM)
我也不知道我是哪裡 有點迷失
*naf Do says: (4:17:20 PM)
忘記國籍
*naf Do says: (4:17:23 PM)
會更自由
Jennyfer.L says: (4:17:29 PM)
阿哈哈
Jennyfer.L says: (4:17:43 PM)
我才不會忘記
Jennyfer.L says: (4:17:47 PM)
只是我沒有被束縛
*naf Do says: (4:19:12 PM)
嗯
*naf Do says: (4:19:14 PM)
那就好
*naf Do says: (4:19:24 PM)
定義是xx人還是yy人
*naf Do says: (4:19:33 PM)
很煩，也不見得有意義
Jennyfer.L says: (4:24:11 PM)
恩恩
Jennyfer.L says: (4:24:16 PM)
我是火星人
*naf Do says: (4:24:40 PM)
希望地球還有來自火星的男人
*naf Do says: (4:24:43 PM)
不然你就寂寞了
Jennyfer.L says: (4:25:21 PM)
你這話真實在
Finally I got my first break(hope is not the last) after I started working in Beijing. As this Chinese New Year I will not be able to go back home, my friend invites me to his home in Harbin and enjoy with the family. Harbin!? Never thought about one day I am going there, I can't even imagine what is the city look like. It's very close to Russia, it's the northest city in China. 東北三省最北省，黑龍江省的省會。Gosh, it's just crazy when I think about I am actually going to the northest place in the coldest time in the entire year. Not to mentioned I am from the warm, humidity souther land. I did some research, and post the map here, and I will post some blog and pic later after I get back from my trip!! Can't wait!!
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